When we deny the story, it defines us. When we own the story, we can write a brave new endingBrené Brown
We all carry stories, pain and anger in us. Our past shaped us and made who we are. However, we are more than that. We are more than the losses, the mistakes and all the hate we faced. We have to free ourselves and let go of what no longer serves us. But how can we do that? I mean, how can we let go of everything that has happened to us? In this blog post I wanna share my personal tips I used, to find peace with my past.
See your past with the eyes of love
I know that there is so much pain out there and life can be really unfair and sometimes months and even years can be filled with hate and sorrow. We have to change our focus and instead of still holding on to all the negativity, try to see everything that has happened to you through the eyes of love. Everything in life is ever a blessing or a lesson and with this in mind your perspective upon your whole life will change completely.
In life we get hurt – this is totally normal and we cannot do anything against it. What we can do, is to change our behaviour towards the people who hurt us. We can carry grief and anger in our hearts, or we forgive them, set them and ourselves free and go on. Forgiving people who hurt us, is never an easy thing to do. However, it is the only way to let go of everything that hurt you and to find peace within yourself.
Let us forgive each other – only then we will live in peace.-Leo Tolstoy
Search for the why & see the bigger picture
Always remember that behind everything that has happened to you, is a reason for it. I know that it is not easy to see it this way when everything seems to fall apart or people we love hurt us. But do not forget that if people do us wrong, they often have struggles with themselves and recognize that everyone is human and makes mistakes.
Focus on what you had and not what you lacked
Yes, sometimes we face struggles and miss something we think we need. I know that life can be really unfair and some have it better than others. But something good happens to everyone – focus on this, instead of being sad and full of pain and anger because you did not get what you want. Happiness is often just a matter of your focus; so take a step back and see our story from a different point of view.
Be thankful for what you have. You have no idea how many people would love to have, what you have got.
I hope these tips helped you as much as they helped me. What I loved to do in order to rewrite my story, is to really write it down following the tips above as a guideline. Read it as often as you like and need. By that you can learn the lessons your past tried to teach you and finally find peace with it. Is there something you carry in your heart that weighs you down? Let go of it. If you like, feel free to share your own story in the comments or if you have your own tips to rewrite your past, I would love to read them.
Love & Light,