“Do one thing every day that scares you”
Fear comes in many forms. We are afraid of spiders, heights, small rooms or death. Our heart skips a beat when we have to speak in public, we are afraid of rejection, meeting new people or the uncertainty of the future. Too often we refuse to do the things we actually really would like to do because we are too scared. However, in order to feel like a real hero in life and to be successful, we have to face our fears and be our truest self.
In order to do so, we have to step out of our comfort zone. By that I do not mean to do something completly challenging every single day. Start with some steps to gain more confidence.
When I was younger, I wasn´t insecure at all, however, during the years I got quite shy when it comes to meeting new people and feel comfortable and welcomed in a group of people. I just need a lot of time to open up and feel comfortable around others because I believed, everyone was judging me. Now I know that I should just not care what other people think of me and I start to open up more and start talking to others.
People will always talk about you, especially when they envy you and the life you live. Let them . You affected their lives, they didn´t affect yours.
One way to gain confidence is to start talking to strangers. You do not need to start a conversation about life and death but say something nice or simply giving someone a smile can help a lot. For example when I sat next to someone in a café and he/she cannot decided what to order, I just say something like “I really like the chocolate cake here” or “try the caramel cappuccino, it is delicious”. Just start talking and do not feel embarrassed.
Another hack to be confident is, to surround yourself with the right people and do not do anything just to be liked. If you do not want to go out and party a lot, then don´t do it. Yes, maybe you will feel lonely at first, however, please believe me when I say that you will find your friends – people who understand and love you for who you are.
Your circe should want to see you win. Your circle should clap loudly when you have good news. If not, get a new circle.
Being different and not sharing every interest with your friends and family, does not affect your worth and because nobody has the same opinion does not mean yours is wrong. Too often in life, we believe that something is wrong WITH us by not follow the crowd. I do not want to claim that you should not listen to others and act stubborn like a three year old. I am a huge believer that it is highly important to listen to others and be open-minded when it comes to certain topics. However, it is totally okay to disagree with others and have your own beliefs. For example when it comes to following a specific diet or lifestyle: Although, I know that there are many people out there who claim that eating meat and dairy is important for our health, I eat vegetarian for years now and most of my meals are plantbased and do not contain dairy or artificial flavour enhancers. This diet/lifestyle (however, you wanna call it) works the best for me personally. For a long time it was really hard for me to say this out loud, but now as I gained more convidence, it is okay that there are many people who judge me or talk behind my back because of it.
Why fit in, when you were born to stand out?
I know that there are many people out there who struggle with quite the same issues, and it cannot be said too often: Do not change because someone told you to and do not try to be someone you are not. Believe in who you are and follow YOUR dreams and believes. It may feel lonely at the beginning, but believe me: when you say yes to who you are and wanna be, you will find the right people who share the same believes and understand and support you! It is scarey and far too often you will ask yourself if this is the right decision you made but you do not have to fear to be your truest self. Admire who you are and everything will fall into place!